A LOVE LIKE THIS….
Love is one of the most beautiful feelings in the world…but its not all roses and butterflies. Real love isn’t that feeling you get on your first date or the butterflies when someone tells you they love you for the first time. Love is much more than that. Love is enduring the highest of high feelings and hanging on through the lowest and bumpiest of times. I don’t think people in todays generation under what love is. That unconditional, you’re my best friend. Im not leaving when shit gets hard, love. Theres no loyalty. No faithfulness. No one is ever satisfied and 100% happy with who they’re with. They’re too many wandering eyes and thinking the grass is greener over there. Too many “I cant leave, I feel bad but ill cheat until I find something better” types. The “ill use them to get higher” types. The “he loves me so ill just use him” types. We’re the “everything is disposable” generation. If its broke, we throw it out. If its too hard, we quit on it. I believe getting together is the easy part. Its the staying together that is tough. Very few builders, way to many runners. You have to stick it out with your partner. Giving up is so easy to do. Walking away is for the weak. There has been plenty of times we both wanted to throw our hands up over something dumb but for what? why? we love each other..Everybody from the outside will look at our pictures and think “omg what a perfect couple” “I want to have a love like theirs“… Yes, I love him like crazy. AND we have a great relationship because we work at it everyday BUT perfect? NOT-AT-ALL! Every couple endures and goes through situations which makes them learn and advance in their own relationships. Social media always makes couples appear to be perfect and ideal ( who’s going to post-capture bad moments?) We are just two people who are still learning and making mistakes like the rest of the world and figuring out how to handle them within our own bubble. There are times I literally want to kill this individual for annoying the hell out of me but Love is patient. You are 2 humans joining 2 lives together.. growing together and still growing as own individuals. You have to learn how to mix the 2 together and grow in unison. We have been together for almost 3 years now, the best 3 years of my life..but we have gone through mountains. We’ve endured people who meant the world to us, passing away. Funerals, Weddings, Birthdays, Every holiday, Graduations, Traveling, Moving, Fights, Negative people…Getting through the bad weather and the good weather together is what makes the details in a relationship so strong. As long as the two of you are solid and love the relationship, nothing can get in the way. I don’t believe in walking away when things get rough. I believe in the power of love. Nobody is perfect. My mom always told me…”Find someone who’s flaws you can live with for the rest of your life.” That has always stuck with me. There has been times him and I have gotten into a fight in front of my best friend.. A dumb fight over nothing. Fire and Gasoline. I acted like a baby, He acted like a baby but the next day, he apologized for what he did wrong and I apologized for what I said..and we moved forward. Everything takes work. Everybody has moments of immaturity within a relationship. It takes removal of ego and pride and self reflection on how to change it. We’ve been in the house hunting stage for the last month or so… let me tell you, my patience is running
thin. Very thin…I can get moody and mean! LOL! Looking for the house you want to spend the next years of your lives in, enduring all the life warming milestones in. Having babies and being married in “THIS HOUSE”.. so much pressure. I want it to be perfect BUT I know we will get it sooner or later and he deals with my “impatient self”. ha… At the end of the day.. Love isn’t a walk in the park and sunny days. Its hard work. You have to make sure your relationship is filled with passion. Passion will drive you right over those mountains. I have someone by my side, who is loyal as can be, loving, caring & is ready to spend the rest of his life giving me his all. ( patiently waiting for my ring) haha.
My advice on love and all the couples who are going through the swing of things…Don’t just give up. Don’t just walk away...TRY. FIX IT. This generation, as I’ve witnessed is so quick to just throw their hands up and walk in the other direction. Even if they have had kids with their partner. They think its okay to just move on to the next guy and keep having babies and baby daddy’s and not spending their time fixing the problems, that are probably so easily fixed. It takes hard work, communication. Its not easy to make “your perfect home” unless you’re willing to put the work in.. you’re always going to be unhappy & moving from relationship to relationship trying to find whats wrong or whats missing. Instead of pointing the fingers at them, work on yourself. Take a step back and figure out who you are as a person and why is it so easy for you to walk away? If you feel as if you’re settling and you deserve better & he’s not treating you right-than leave, Find your KING…but if you’re scared or repeating a cycle within your family dynamic or you have too much pride. Be better- not bitter. Love is hard work yet it is so rewarding and satisfying. Real love will get you through anything. 2 people who are in love and willing to put all the work in, will go far <3
I wanted to write this post just to simply show that Im not one of those fake women who flaunt a fake reality. I love my man to death and would walk the earth for him but he does get on my nerves from time to time. Stop relating your own relationship to others because you think their lives are perfect. HINT its most likely not..Its two people who love each other and are willing to put the work in to make a happy home. Everybody has their breaking points.
My breaking point would be infidelity. If my man EVER stepped out of our relationship, it would be over before you can say the word OVER. haha but thats just me. Some other people can take that and keep the relationship going. Some people have different type of buttons on when to call it quits. Find what you can and cant put up with. You’ll know who to keep it pushing for and when to walk away. Women intuition is very powerful. Don’t ignore it.
I love my boyfriend beyond words. Im gratefully to know love and to understand the strength it takes to keep something special together. I have changed drastically as a person because of him and because of us as a team. I love you hunk and cant wait for all that the future holds. <3